Sports Mind Shift (free download)

img_7908“Sports Mind Shift is a brilliant book that makes you realise and understand how powerful your mindset can be when you use it the right way. I would recommend it to not only aspiring young athletes but also sports coaches.” Petr Sestak, Football Goalkeeping Coach. (www.247gk.com.au)

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I am excited to offer you a copy of my latest book, Sports Mind Shift, which explores 9 principles to help young people embrace an empowering, focused and growth mindset in sport. Sports Mind Shift explores the often underutilised areas of what it takes to be a champion athlete. It focuses on the heart, character and mindset of champion, not how to win games, but how to win at life.

I trust you enjoy the learning and challenges in the pages of this great little resource and feel free to pass it on to anyone you feel could benefit from Sports Mind Shift. It is also available through Amazon Australia as a Kindle download. www.amazon.com.au

“Sport has the potential to provide many positive influences on one’s life. This book provides a road map which will help readers find those benefits. This is an important resource which I recommend to anyone seeking to be the best they can be.” Peter Burgess, President Bonnet Bay FC.

Have a great day

Brett White

Comparison

comparisonWe all get caught in this, comparing ourselves to others. Mark Twain said that “comparison is the death of joy.” Research has found that comparing breeds feelings of envylow-self confidence, and depression, as well as compromises our ability to trust others. The thing with comparison is that we mostly compare our behind-the-scenes struggles and negatives with everyone else’s highlight reel. We compare our weaknesses to other people’s strengths. This just doesn’t serve us or our journey well at all. A friend of mine, Monique Lawler, said: “Comparing ourselves to others robs us of loving the moment and experience we are having right now. When we look at someone and think they are better off than us, they aren’t – they’re experience is just different. We all experience equal amounts of positive and negative.”

Part of what makes life brilliant and interesting is learning from others, not comparing ourselves to them. Then we can focus on being the very best version of ourselves we can be, which is the greatest gift we can give to our world. Using someone else as a benchmark for your own worth and value is an ineffective and dis-empowering strategy for life in every way. Yes, be inspired by others and learn from them but remember who you are, and who you are becoming. You are unique, special and worth it. Sharon Pearson (founder of the Coaching Institute) posted this: “It may not be easy, but you are worth it. It may be challenging, but you have what it takes. Not because you have done it before, but because you know you’re here for something more.”

In Daring Greatly Brenne Brown writes, “We’re afraid that our truth isn’t enough — that what we have to offer isn’t enough without the bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing.”

You are who you are, and you are 100% in control of who you are becoming. That’s an important truth to remember. Don’t blame others, and circumstances, or create excuses for who you are, just own it. Take control of your future. Embrace you. Celebrate you. Enjoy you. Love you.

Brett

the power of “WHAT IF”

what-if-284x336We all ask this question to ourselves, “what if?” This questions will either stop you, seduce you or spur you on, and ultimately that’s a choice we make. It can be a fine line learning to discover the balance and working through the tension of this powerful question.

When the “what if” stops you: some people would call this catastrophizing, and it is when we ask ourselves the negative what ifs.  Considering possible outcomes isn’t necessarily unhelpful when it creates a solution focused mindset, but when it creates fear it stops us from experiencing the joy and greatness of the challenge and adventure before us. It can create anxiety, worry and procrastination. For example; the opportunity to travel and serve in a developing world presents itself to us. How exciting. But … what if I get sick, what if the plane crashes, what if I don’t like it, what if I get lost, what if I get mugged, what if I lose my stuff, what if it’s too hard, what if they don’t like me, what if .. what if .. what if. We create a story that exists only in our minds. We allow the negative “what ifs” to rob us of the opportunity, joy and fulfillment because they stop us from moving forward. “What if I fall?” … “Oh but my darling. What if you fly?” (Erin Hanson)

When the “what if” seduces you: the grass is always greener on the other side is seduction of our culture. This does not mean we settle for mediocre or a crappy life, but the seduction of this “what if” can create heightened levels of disappointment, shame and even delusion. What if I miss out, what if it’s better, what if no one finds out, what if I become famous, what if I was super rich, what if he or she is better, what if it doesn’t hurt anyone, what if I am better than them, what if I’m right, what if it feels good, what if .. what if .. what if. We create a story of seduction, based on delusion that can often send us down a path of destruction. We are never satisfied or content, always looking and comparing, and always thinking that life would be better over there. There is nothing wrong with dreaming, hoping and wishing for greater things, and there is nothing wrong with having a great imagination, until these “what ifs” seduce us to a life of perfectionism, discontentment and comparison. We give up easily on projects and even people, because it always looks better over there. “Comparison is the greatest thief of joy”. (Mark Twain) The truth is, the grass is always greener where you water it.

When the “what if” spurs you on: this is when the dreams of possibilities, potential greatness and significance spurs you on. It’s where our dreams meet action and we take the steps, engage in the activity and work hard to make our dreams become a reality. It is where the power of the positive “what if” spurs us into action, decisions and behaviour that support our dreams and intentions. It is not just being dreamy and it is not creating fear (although both may still exist), these “what ifs” compel us into proactive and intentional action. We create a pathway toward success. What if I make the team, what if I finish this course, what if I do really well in this, what if I succeed, what if we can make it work, what if I can make the change, what if I can experience that, what if I can make a difference there, what if I can do better, what if they say yes, what if .. what if ..  what if.

We are all asking ourselves the what if questions, every day and all the time. Are your what if questions stopping you, seducing you or spurring you on. What if you decided to change that today, and begin to create the future you truly desire and long for? What if?

Brett

Happy 2017

401641_435221806526430_538562686_nWhat would it take for you to create a brilliant 2017? 

Start with asking yourself a couple of searching questions: 1/ who do you want to become (internal) 2/ what do you want to achieve (external). Apply the following process to both of these, focusing on the internal first. Who you are becoming will impact and determine what you want to achieve.

A/ know the outcomes and results you want for 2017

When you are clear on your outcomes, your mind shifts focus and becomes like a laser focus for the mind. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. You will get more of what you focus on, to the exclusion of everything else.

Write down the outcomes you want in life for 2017. These are your positive intentions. Make them very specific and clearly articulated. Buy a journal and read over them every day.

The unconscious mind struggles to focus on negatives like “I don’t want to be lazy” … It only recognizes it in the positive, “I want to be lazy”, so it’s important to state what you want in the positive. I want to be active, intentional and growing etc.

B/ take BIG action – action creates momentum. You can be on the right track, but if you just sit there and do nothing, you’ll still get run over by a train. Commit. Change your language around things being too hard, to things being unfamiliar. Like riding a bike, which is actually quite easy when you know how, but the first time it seems very hard. This is because it’s unfamiliar and not hard. Instead of seeing failure as fatal, view it as effective feedback for learning, growth and success. Take ownership and responsibility for your choices, actions and behaviour.

C/ Self-evaluation – notice what’s going on. Am I getting the outcomes I desire? Don’t get stuck in what you’re doing if you are not getting the results you want. Become keenly aware and then adjust, tweak, change or create new actions and behaviours to support your desired outcomes.

D/ Behavioural flexibility – people are not their behaviour and the person with the most behavioural flexibility gets the best results. How do I need to change? What behaviour needs to be shifted, stopped, adjusted or adopted?

E/ Start – maintain – finish

Know your strength, celebrate it and work on the others. Some people are great starters – visionaries, ideas people and innovators. Some people love to maintain and manage – doers, task focused and achievers. Some are great finishers – complete the task, must finish before we start the next things

We must all develop as finishers in life to become more effective. Completes the cycle. Some people are scared to finish because it means starting something else … Fearful. Some people find maintaining mode really boring, so we need to give new meaning to the task of maintaining, to see it as a springboard to success and achievement, and to the next adventure.

What area do I need to work on? How can I grow to complete the cycle?

Brett

Disappointed?

unnamedOne of things we all have to deal with in life is disappointments of varying degrees, impacts and results. Our kids can disappoint us; our partner can disappoints us; our friends can disappoint us; and we can even disappoint ourselves. Left unchecked, these disappointments build up and begin to block up the flow of life we are meant to be enjoying.

We also face disappointments of life; not getting that job, not getting selected in that team, missing out on that holiday, the new relationship not working out, getting sick at the wrong time, losing our job, not getting that house, being rejected or left out, not getting the results in the exam we needed and so on. Disappointments are a part of life and for some they can create anger, bitterness, fear, pain, withdrawal, confusion and even loss of hope.

So how do we deal with disappointment in a healthy, effective and resourceful way? A lot has to do with perspective, the meaning you give them and your inner resilience.

Some disappointments come because of expectations. I was disappointed in my friend because I expected them to respond differently. So we have a choice, either lower our expectations and reduce our disappointments or develop a different perspective on disappointment. There is also a difference between valid and invalid expectations, which is worth exploring. Is the person aware I have this expectation? Have I clearly, directly and respectfully spoken out my expectation to them? Has the other person agreed to the expectation? In order for an expectation to be valid, it must be mutually agreed upon.

To build resilience we need to embrace the challenge of being disappointed and see it as an opportunity to learn and grow, to become even better. To develop a perspective and attitude that persists when things get tough, because you believe you can grow, and are excited by that possibility. Developing an internal belief that the more effort you put in the greater the results, outcomes and achievements you can experience is also critical. Not to shrink back, but to press forward. Building resilience also requires a healthier view on setbacks, seeing them as feedback to help you mature, grow and develop as a person, so you can reach your goals in life.

Our disappointments could become the things that strengthen, empower and develop us, and in turn create a deeper sense of fulfillment and happiness.  Someone once said that disappointment to a good soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens and intensifies, but never destroys.

I don’t like being disappointed … but I would hate to live my life without any expectations at all, because that would not really be living now would it. I mean if I lowered my expectations, just in case I got disappointed, I would also miss out on all the great opportunities, relationships and experiences that life has to offer.

Because disappointments are a part of our journey in life, learning to deal with them in a healthy and resourceful way is really important.

Brett

 

 

Sports Mind Shift

Growing recommendations for Sports Mind Shift

“Sports Mind Shift is a brilliant book that makes you realise and understand how powerful your mindset can be when you use it the right way. I would recommend it to not only aspiring young athletes but also sports coaches.” Petr Sestak, Football Goalkeeping Coach. (www.247gk.com.au)

“Sport has the potential to provide many positive influences on one’s life. This book provides a road map which will help readers find those benefits. This is an important resource which I recommend to anyone seeking to be the best they can be.” Peter Burgess, President Bonnet Bay FC.

 I am excited to offer you a copy of my latest book, Sports Mind Shift, which explores 9 principles to help people embrace an empowering, focused and growth mindset in sport. Sports Mind Shift explores the often underutilised areas of what it takes to be a champion athlete. It focuses on the heart, character and mindset of champion, not how to win games, but how to win at life.

 It is available through Amazon Australia as a Kindle download for ONLY $1.35.

http://www.amazon.com.au

 Have a great day

 Brett White

Are we there yet?

Are We There Yet? Green Road Sign with Dramatic Sky and Clouds.Are we there yet? It’s a question I am sure you have asked and heard asked before. After a little discussion with some friends last week, we determined that there are quite a few different ways you can ask this question.

One way is motivated and driven by frustration or boredom or tiredness or all of the above. It’s the whining, annoying and impatient voice that is focused more on the challenges or effort of the journey.

Another way is driven more by despair, loneliness or grief. It is that desperate cry of the heart, aching for this part of the journey to be over. For the storm to pass, the pain to fade or for the confusion to clear.

The last way is motivated and driven more by excitement, expectancy and delight. It’s the hope filled voice that is grateful for the journey and excited about where it will lead us in the future.

I have personally asked this question in all three ways, as I am sure most of you have. The challenge I believe is to be aligning ourselves with the third way, even in the midst of those hard, or tedious, or frustrating parts of our journey. Are we there yet, asked with gratitude, conviction and expectancy, believes that there are greater things to come. That this season will pass. That I can learn, grow and develop from this part of my journey and become the person I truly desire to be. That I am strong enough, brave enough and good enough to experience and live life beyond this moment, into the next. That I can truly be free, content and at peace with who I am, and what I am building.

For some of us defining the there is very important, and for others the journey itself is what is important. I believe both the journey and the destination are critical. The there I am referring to isn’t a goal so much, like an achievement, a success or something we acquire or get, the there is more a becoming, a state of being. Goals are great, they give us direction, something to aim for and a box we can tick along the way. Our “there” is something completely different, it is more about who we are becoming and what we are building. Our there isn’t a destination we will get to, like the family holiday, our there is more a destiny of being. One is defined by arriving and succeeding, the other is defined by significance and becoming.

So are we there yet? Well I know that I am not there yet, and that excites me. The desired outcome is not that we would be able to tick a box and say we have arrived, the desired outcome would be to ask, are we different, are we growing, are we becoming, and are we building a bigger and brighter future in our daily lives. Is our journey making a difference, is our world a better place because of it, and are we still hungry, passionate and eager for the ongoing journey ahead.

I believe our there must inspire and motivate us. It must be drawing us into the journey beyond the shore, beyond our safety nets and comforts zones, passed our need to control and know it all, and further than the thrills of adventure along the way. Are you there yet?

Discover, develop and create your there, and then align your world to it. Brett

Sports MIND SHiFT

sports_mind_shift_coverThe power of the mind in sport is often the missing skill in an athlete’s tool kit. Around the globe professional clubs and teams are recognizing the power of the mind in sport, with most major clubs employing sports psychologists and mindset coaches as part of the team.

But you don’t need a psychology degree to understand a few proven basic principles that will enhance your effectiveness as a young athlete. It’s not complicated, it’s just rarely taught or explained. The reality is this: change the way you think and you’ll change the way you are, the way you relate, the way you behave and the way you perform, at almost every level.

9-mind-shiftsI am excited to offer you a basic copy of my latest little booklet, Sports Mind Shift, which explores 9 principles to help young people embrace an empowering, focused and growth mindset in sport. Simply email me at: brett.shift@gmail.com and I will email you back your FREE copy. Sports Mind Shift explores the often underutilised areas of what it takes to be a champion athlete. It focuses on the heart, character and mindset of champion, not how to win games, but how to win at life.

 “Sport has the potential to provide many positive influences on one’s life. This book provides a road map which will help readers find those benefits. Brett’s deep knowledge has its foundations in many years of real life experience combined with focused learnings. His insights into what makes young people tick and his easy style enable him to communicate messages to benefit all aspects of life. This is an important resource which I recommend to anyone seeking to be the best that they can be.” Peter Burgess, President Bonnet Bay FC.

player_dimensionsI trust you enjoy the learning and challenges in the pages of this great little resource and feel free to pass it on to anyone you feel could benefit from Sports Mind Shift. Simply email me at: brett.shift@gmail.com and I will email you back your FREE copy. It is also available through Amazon Australia as a Kindle download. www.amazon.com.au

 

Have a great day

Brett White

Go beyond the shore

What really scares you? 

A little 4 year old girl came knocking at my door dressed up in a white fairy dress and some scary looking makeup. She smiled at me with the words “trick or treat” and dove her hand into my bowl of lollies. I said “wow you look scary today don’t you?” She looked at me with a funny grin and said, “you don’t look scared.” “Ohhh but I am”, I replied with a smile. She put her hands on her hips and shook her head and with a glare she said, “you’re not scared because you’re old and nothing scares you.” She made me laugh and then think about what’s really scary to me, and the challenge we all face to “do it afraid”. 

For most of us, a new challenge, opportunity or risk outside of our comfort zone, can often be one of the scariest things we can face. There is a small percentage of us that thrive on this, which is another story, but most of us like our certainty. We prefer the familiar, the safe, the comfortable and the secure and challenges, even exciting ones, outside of this safety zone can create heightened levels of anxiety, worry and fear. This fear can stop us from experiencing greater things, deeper purpose and incredible learning. “A ship in harbor is safe — but that is not what ships are built for.” — John A. Shedd. We have to be brave to step out into he unknown, the risky and the uncertain to experience what is beyond the shore, but so many play it safe. 

Being brave doesn’t mean we won’t feel afraid, and the key to living a courageous life is “doing it afraid”. That’s what being brave is really about. My daughter just left the comfort of home, family and friends to pursue a dream to study music, song writing and leadership in the London. It’s a brave and courageous step filled with uncertainty, challenges, new opportunities and experiences. Taking the plunge out of her comfort zone is scary, for the parents too, but it is also where she will discover life, beyond the shore. I am so incredibly proud of her. 

When I look back over my life, there have been times when I have ventured beyond the shore, taken risks and faced new challenges and adventures. The thing is, they always create certain levels of fear, doubt, questioning, insecurity, anxiety and worry. I could have chosen to play it safe, and somewhat regrettably I did this many times, but when I ventured out “beyond the shore” it is where I grew, discovered, experienced, developed and changed the most, and all for the better. Playing it safe is definitely the easy option, but life is short, your purpose unique and the part you are called to play in living a rewarding life of significance is always “beyond the shore”. 

Life is for living friends not simply existing. Go beyond the shore

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