We engage in a lot of activities, and not all of them are ultimately good for us, or serve our goals and desired outcomes. Creating awareness around the things we engage in for safety, comfort and distraction is great step towards enjoying greater freedom and living the life we truly desire to live. These habits, practices and behaviors are not necessarily always bad, unless they are stopping us from being who we want to be and create the outcomes we truly want.
Comfort distractions are the things we do, telling ourselves they are good for us, when in fact they drain and entangle us. They feel good in the moment, but leave us feeling empty and withdrawn, and can often lead to a sense of shame. They give us something in the moment, usually comfort or safety. It isn’t so much what it is, it’s the why behind the what that is critical. It could be any self indulgence from eating, drinking, watching TV, excessive social media or even exercise. What is critical is asking, “why am I engaging in this when it’s not serving my well-being or my goals”. We are usually trying to mask, medicate or ignore emotions that we need to deal with and work through. Often the result of engaging in a comfort illusion, is more guilt, shame and disappointment in ourselves. Creating awareness around this is not always easy, but always beautifully empowering.
Time distractions are activities we engage in that provide a diversion from things we need to be doing. Again it’s not what I am doing but the why am I doing it that’s important to create awareness around. Generally it’s an avoidance strategy, when we don’t want to do something we know deep down we need to do. It could be because we feel overwhelmed, or that it’s boring, or that it’s unfamiliar to us, so we engage in something that’s distracts us. In doing so we ignore the very things we need to do to achieve our goals and desired outcomes in life. We can get very busy doing tasks and activities that are not serving us and helping us achieve our goals.
The journey is this: to get the results and rewards we desire in life, means we need to engage in activity that at first may not feel good, even though it is good for us and good for others. Time and comfort distractiions can feel good, but are not good for us and not good for others. Ultimately, when we are disciplined to walk in the activities that don’t feel good, after time they are not only good for us and are good for others, they begin to feel good too. This requires a sense of commitment and determination, but when we don’t create awareness and therefore change unhealthy behaviours, it can lead to a life that doesn’t feel good and isn’t good for us, and none of us want that.
So what are your comfort and time distractions? What provokes or activates you to engage in these unproductive activities? What are some resourceful ways you can behave, respond and take action on these moments that will serve you better?
Have a great day friends. Brett
Adapted from the concept of “shadow comforts and time monsters” by Jennifer Louden