Are we there yet? It’s a question I am sure you have asked and heard asked before. After a little discussion with some friends last week, we determined that there are quite a few different ways you can ask this question.
One way is motivated and driven by frustration or boredom or tiredness or all of the above. It’s the whining, annoying and impatient voice that is focused more on the challenges or effort of the journey.
Another way is driven more by despair, loneliness or grief. It is that desperate cry of the heart, aching for this part of the journey to be over. For the storm to pass, the pain to fade or for the confusion to clear.
The last way is motivated and driven more by excitement, expectancy and delight. It’s the hope filled voice that is grateful for the journey and excited about where it will lead us in the future.
I have personally asked this question in all three ways, as I am sure most of you have. The challenge I believe is to be aligning ourselves with the third way, even in the midst of those hard, or tedious, or frustrating parts of our journey. Are we there yet, asked with gratitude, conviction and expectancy, believes that there are greater things to come. That this season will pass. That I can learn, grow and develop from this part of my journey and become the person I truly desire to be. That I am strong enough, brave enough and good enough to experience and live life beyond this moment, into the next. That I can truly be free, content and at peace with who I am, and what I am building.
For some of us defining the there is very important, and for others the journey itself is what is important. I believe both the journey and the destination are critical. The there I am referring to isn’t a goal so much, like an achievement, a success or something we acquire or get, the there is more a becoming, a state of being. Goals are great, they give us direction, something to aim for and a box we can tick along the way. Our “there” is something completely different, it is more about who we are becoming and what we are building. Our there isn’t a destination we will get to, like the family holiday, our there is more a destiny of being. One is defined by arriving and succeeding, the other is defined by significance and becoming.
So are we there yet? Well I know that I am not there yet, and that excites me. The desired outcome is not that we would be able to tick a box and say we have arrived, the desired outcome would be to ask, are we different, are we growing, are we becoming, and are we building a bigger and brighter future in our daily lives. Is our journey making a difference, is our world a better place because of it, and are we still hungry, passionate and eager for the ongoing journey ahead.
I believe our there must inspire and motivate us. It must be drawing us into the journey beyond the shore, beyond our safety nets and comforts zones, passed our need to control and know it all, and further than the thrills of adventure along the way. Are you there yet?
Discover, develop and create your there, and then align your world to it. Brett